1 ON 1 SESSIONS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE
I help people who keep ending up in the same exhausting place across life, work, and relationships unlock what's been driving their choices and develop Secure Self-Leadership so they can finally feel confident in themselves.
Is the S.E.C.U.R.E Programme right for you?
The S.E.C.U.R.E Programme may be right for you if:
You're exhausted from ending up in the same place in relationships and life despite trying everything, and you're ready to understand what's actually been going on
You want a practical, results-focused approach to transformation
You're committed to doing the actual work
You're open to looking at what's been happening beyond what you consciously think you know
You're ready to look honestly at yourself to create lasting change and transform how you show up in every area of your life
THE S.E.C.U.R.E Programme for people ready to transform what's been holding them back
Through the SECURE Programme, I help people like you:
Unlock genuine clarity about what's been driving your choices and develop Secure Self-Leadership.
Together, we'll work to identify and transform what's been keeping you repeating what doesn't work, so you can finally make different choices.
This approach helps you understand yourself completely, break free from what keeps happening, and create lasting transformation.
If you're ready to stop repeating the same exhausting situations and finally understand what's actually been going on, this is your invitation. Together, we'll transform what's been driving your choices and work towards lasting change in all areas of your life.
My approach
I understand that ending up in the same exhausting place stems from more than what you consciously know. My work recognises that what keeps happening isn't coincidence; it's connected to something driving your choices without your awareness. By working together to uncover what's really going on, we can create the kind of lasting transformation that changes everything from the inside out.
Through my proven approach to understanding relationship dynamics, I help you transform what's been holding you back, so you experience:
Freedom From Repeating What Doesn't Work
By understanding what's been driving your choices, you'll finally be able to make different decisions, moving away from where you keep ending up and toward genuine clarity and freedom.
A Direct and Transformational Experience
I'm here to work with you in an honest environment, where we examine what's actually happening with directness and care.
Real Change That Lasts
You'll develop deep self-awareness and practical capability to make different choices, increasing your effectiveness in every area and enabling you to transform your entire life.
Testimonials
"I would highly recommend anyone from all walks of life to go through the S.E.C.U.R.E programme. "
The journey I have been in with the S.E.C.U.R.E Programme has been transformational. I have regained self-awareness in aspects of my life that had been locked away, giving me back self-belief and independence with in my conflicting thoughts. It has been amazing going through the programme with Louise who has been nothing less than professional, inspiring, empowering, personable with no judgement to say a few. S.E.C.U.R.E programme is all about personal growth and investing in yourself to give you the tools you need to continue to grow through your life. Being able to recognise potentially triggering situations that arise and having the tools to dealing with them with confidence as they occur. There really are not enough words I can say about how I have personally been helped.
- Emma P
"I can see this as a great investment into my personal development and a sustainable route to becoming a happier and more productive person"
I have been working with Louise for nearly two months now, with one online meeting a week and bit of self-development work in-between when I have managed the time. I am only halfway through the programme so far but can feel myself responding to situations in a more positive way and I can see a lot of the things I used to tell myself before are not true or beneficial to progressing to where I want to be in life. As we are working through the tools and exercises, I can see this as a great investment into my personal development and a sustainable route to becoming a happier and more productive person. Thank you Lou for always being understanding and totally non-judgemental.
- Sharna H
"This is literally the best thing I have ever done for myself"
I recently took a few months out to focus on “me” after yet another failed relationship. I came across the S.E.C.U.R.E programme and decided to give it a go. What it’s given me has exceeded my expectations and absolutely transformed everything for me in a hugely positive way.
I’ve been able to identify my needs, something I had very little idea about before, and I am now able to communicate with other people in such a way that I have no doubts or worry about the way I’m interacting.
I can’t recommend this programme enough, it’s enabled me to improve my relationships within my family and work environment and the clarity I now have means I’m ready to start dating again.
- Jane B
About Secure Self-Leadership and Louise
As someone who repeated the same exhausting cycles for over 40 years, I know how this affects everything in your life. This impacts not just your relationships, but your career, your family, and how you show up everywhere. When you don't understand what's actually been driving your choices, the same situations keep showing up, just with different people, and you're left feeling exhausted and confused.
After decades of repeating the same cycles and watching my relationships implode despite having the career, corporate leadership, all of it, I started examining what actually creates lasting change. I researched extensively, relational dynamics, attachment dynamics, how people actually operate. Through that work, I discovered that traditional approaches don't always address what's really happening.
The real work is understanding what you've been seeking your whole life and why you've been going about it in ways that don't work. This approach transforms what's been running your life for decades, giving you clarity to make different choices and break free from what keeps happening.
There's solid research on how past experiences shape the strategies we use to get our needs met throughout our entire lives. If you've been repeating the same exhausting cycles, experiencing difficulties across relationships and work and have tried everything, therapy, books, courses, all of it, but still haven't addressed what's actually driving your choices beneath your awareness, this is your invitation to something different. With my direct and honest approach, I work with people who are ready to look at themselves properly and actually do the work to transform what's been running their behaviour. This isn't about being fixed. It's about finally understanding why you keep ending up in the same place and doing something different about it.
Book your complimentary call
We'll discuss:
What you've tried before and why it hasn't worked
What you actually want to change in your relationships, work, and life
What we both think you need to overcome this
The commitment required to actually transform what's been running your behaviour
Your questions and how this work applies to your situation
Together, we'll work out if the SECURE Programme is right for you and whether this is the right time for you.
FAQs
Is this therapy?
No. This isn't therapy, and I'm not a therapist. This is practical work for people who understand complexity and are ready to examine what's been driving their choices. You'll look at yourself honestly, challenge what you've been doing for decades, and make different choices even when it feels uncomfortable.
How long does the programme take?
The SECURE Programme is six steps, each building on the last. This isn't a quick fix, you're transforming what's been running your life for decades. You can choose between 3 or 6 months depending on the support you require, and you'll start seeing results in 30 days. But the real question is: are you ready to commit to doing the work, or are you looking for another surface-level solution?
What if I've already tried everything?
If you've done therapy, read the books, taken the courses, but you're still here, it means those approaches haven't addressed what's actually driving your choices beneath your awareness. Traditional approaches can be helpful, but they often work at the surface level. This is different because it addresses what's really been running your behaviour, not just the symptoms you can see.
Will this work for my specific situation?
If you're repeating exhausting cycles across relationships, work, and life, yes. The specifics might look different (difficult boss vs distant partner vs family tension), but the underlying drivers are the same. This work transforms what's been running all of it, not just one area.
What's the time commitment?
You'll need to engage with the material, use the tools, and complete the work. This requires genuine commitment, but it's also designed to fit into your life, and I'll support you through it. If you're ready to actually look at what's been driving your behaviour, we'll work out what that looks like for you.
What makes you qualified to teach this?
I'm a qualified attachment mentor, and I lived it. Forty years of repeating the same cycles, corporate leadership career, relationships that were absolute disasters. I researched extensively, relational dynamics, attachment theory, how people actually operate, and built the Attachment Dynamics Framework from that work. I launched Attachment Dynamics to help others break free from what I lived through. I'm not teaching theory. I'm teaching what actually worked to transform my life.